It has been the cliché of all the clichéd situations in life, where the man of your dreams is simply beyond your reach. No matter if it’s in the looks, intelligence or in the popularity department, you just always seem to lack compared to him and you can’t help feeling so crushed because you don’t seem to have any qualities that will make him notice you. But, is there really such a thing as someone being “out of our league?” So, I don’t suggest wallowing in your pity party forever and if you really want to take away that feeling of ineptness, you need to think hard and ask yourself if you’re putting yourself down for no reason.
First of all, you need to ask yourself if he’s worth it. You might be very well falling for some guy who is just all looks but has no personality. You need to get to know him first and you just might realize that he’s not really what you think he is. We get so caught up with our feelings sometimes that we don’t see what’s right in front of us.
He’s not perfect. No matter how many good things you hear about him, he’s only human just like you which means that he also have some insecurities, who doesn’t anyway? So, don’t go around thinking that you’re nothing compared to him. You might even find his imperfections to make you like him even more and he just might see beyond yours too, if only you would stop making your imperfections define you.
If you know you can do better, then do better. If you think that your hairstyle has been hiding your beautiful bone structure all these years, then make that trip to the salon or if you feel like wearing lipstick on some days, just go ahead and do it, after all it never hurts to put a little color in your face. Always show people the best version of yourself and you’ll be making heads turn when you pass by one of these days. You don’t have to do it all the time, especially if you’re not comfortable with it. Just make sure that you’re doing it for yourself too and not just so your crush will notice you.
Lastly, stop thinking he’s way out of your league. This kind of thinking just hurts your self esteem and prevents you from making any move, maybe it’s probably the reason why you’re not making any progress with your lovelife because you have already killed in your head whatever relationship that you could have with your crush because you think you’re so beneath him. Everyone has attractive qualities may it be beauty, talent or personality, so just focus on yours and you’ll be building up your confidence in no time. So, chin up and don’t let any kind of shallow mindset get in the way of what you want or who you want in this instance.
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